Neuropathway Bypass to Deal with Negative People

Dr. Gary Epler. The Eplerian Life Philosophy is know where you’re thinking from and that’s who you are. You can use the neuropathway bypass technique for eliminating stress from a mean boss, coworker, or other negative people or events.

Joan – What do you mean by a neuropathway?

A neuropathway is a highway of neurons in the brain with a beginning and an end. Neurons are brain cells that have a long threadlike axon to transmit information to other cells. A neuropathway is started from a person or an event and ends with an emotional response that may be negative, neutral, or positive.

Can you give an example?

After several weeks or months after you have a new boss, you realize the boss is a controlling, self-centered person who does not hesitate to publicly humiliate employees and make them feel bad about themselves. This has created a toxic environment based on fear. As a result, you begin to develop a negative neuropathway that’s triggered by anything related to the boss such as seeing the name, seeing a text or email, or hearing the name. Stress is the end of this negative neuropathway. Every time the pathway is triggered, it causes stress with increased blood pressure, increased breathing, sweaty palms, and a knot in the stomach. The stress can spiral out of control, and if left unchecked will lead to serious illness. This response is from a cement neuropathway in the brain.

This sounds dreadful. What can you do?

Build a neuropathway bypass.

How do you build a neuropathway bypass?

Now you know that a neuropathway is highway that that has a beginning and an end. So, build a new one with a positive beginning and positive ending that will bypass the old, negative pathway causing stress.

How do you do that?

The method is easy and only takes one to two minutes per day. However, discipline is needed because this process is needed for a non-interrupted two-week period.

What do you do?

In the morning, visualize the image of the negative person in your life and let it trigger the stress feelings in the pit of your stomach. You can do this during your morning routine, exercise program, or during your morning run or walk.

Picture the person and feel the stress, then what?

When the feelings of discomfort develop, begin saying two soothing words to yourself repeatedly such as “love and peace.” Say the words over and over until the feeling of anger subsides, usually in less than two minutes.

That’s all there is to it. Feel the stress and repeat “love and peace” over and over for one to two minutes. Could you give a real-life example?

Let’s say that Sarah has a controlling, cruel boss who is causing daily stress leading to an unhealthy life. Day one, during her early-morning run, she triggered the knot in her stomach by visualizing her boss berating her. She repeated “love and peace” to herself over and over, and found, to her surprise, that in less than two minutes, the feeling completely disappeared and was replaced by a soothing feeling.

Then what happened?

The calming feeling didn’t last long. The instant she saw her boss’s car in the parking lot, the anguish immediately returned. This is expected, the aberrant neuropathway took months or years to create, and it will take time to build a bypass.

What happened next?

During her morning run, the tightening in her stomach quickly returned as she visualized her boss, but again she was pleasantly surprised to find it was replaced with a soothing feeling after repeating love and peace for about one minute. She continued the exercise for several more days every morning.

What happened then?

On the seventh day, something unusual happened. She visualized her boss, but she had difficulty triggering the unpleasant feeling in her stomach. This was strange, and she didn’t believe it at first, but gradually during the next several days, no matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t trigger the fear and anguish when she visualized her boss. It was a wonderful experience.

That’s amazing, what happened at work after building the positive neuropathway?

This new development gave her a renewed feeling of strength. After two weeks, Sarah realized that when she saw her boss or heard the name at work, it meant nothing to her. She had no fear and no stress. Her face appeared serene. Several days passed, and her boss came storming into one of Sarah’s team meetings and was about to begin the usual verbal public lashing. However, Sarah stood up, standing about 12 inches away from her boss’s nose. She looked directly at the pupils in her boss’s eyes and smiled. At that moment, Sarah had an overwhelming feeling of calmness with no increased heart rate, no anger, and no fear. The boss blinked a couple of times, looked at Sarah’s face, said nothing, and left the room. Months of hostility ended abruptly. The boss found someone else to torment. Sarah returned to her work full of energy and enjoyed her creative work. She was so successful, she soon left this position and moved to a higher-paid and more enjoyable job.

Joan – Sounds like the neuropathway bypass works. Do you have\ negative or difficult people in your life causing stress? Every day for two weeks, visualize the person, develop the knot in your stomach, say “love and peace” to yourself over and over, one to two minutes every day for two weeks. The stress will be eliminated. Do you have any closing comments?

Dr. Gary Epler – If you find yourself upset and in a negative-feedback loop about a person that causes stress, use the neuro-bypass technique to eliminate the stress. You regain your strength. Your creativity returns. You are a stronger person. It’s simple to use, only one to two minutes every day, and repeat for two weeks. If successful, it will eliminate the stress triggered by the negative people in your life.